Hey there Well.Fitters!! As we sink in to 2019 our team is super motivated by the push toward a more conscious life. I would like to share more details about our upcoming workshop. We have gotten a lot of questions about it so I will answer them here and then expand a little bit about why this is coming up now and what to expect.
Q & A
Q: How long will it be?
A: It will be 1.5 - 2 hours, depending on how much conversing we do through the presentation.
Q: Is this fitness specific?
A: No! This is about YOU and your personal goals. It can be a fitness goal but does not have to be, we encourage you to use this as a platform to learn some things about yourself and take a step toward living your full potential.
Q: Do I have to know what I want to work on going in to it?
A: Absolutely not, in fact it’s best to come with an open mind and allow yourself to go through the exercises with no expectations or attachments. Sometimes its better if you don’t have a specific thing you want to work toward so that you may be wide open for whatever comes up. Fun fact, the first time we did something similar to this at Well.Fit, what came up for me (and I surprised myself) was that I wanted to have another baby. Fast forward 3ish years and he’s here, all fat and happy).
My Story, My Why and The Workshop
I want to share a little bit more about my own personal story and what draws me to this work and why it’s so important for me right now. If you read the last blog post you learned that in the 3 + years that I have had Well.Fit I have been confronted with some serious life challenges. It has been a time full of joy, love, sorrow, richness, financial hardship, heart break and more. Because of all of this I have been firmly planted in survival mode. There’s little to no growth in survival mode. There is no flourishing, there isn’t really any slowing down and savoring. It’s…….survival. However, on the flip side, there can be huge growth and development opportunity.
In August of 2018 my oldest child had a heroin overdose. The months leading up to that pivotal moment in time were excruciating and all I could do was surrender to what was. I was losing my first born child to what all I did not entirely know. That experience as a mother forever changed me. The silver lining is that the overdose was a wake up call for her. We were able to get her the help we needed, she was willing to take it and fast forward to now and she is thriving. She is in Cosmetology school all the way across the country in Seattle (our hometown). She is on a very different track. What came for me after she left was unexpected.
It happened fast at the end, she overdosed, she went into detox, she came home and then we were on a plane to Atlanta where we parted ways, she to Seattle and me to San Diego for the Mindbody BOLD conference. All of that in a matter of a few weeks. She had been in and out of our home for the last year, so not having her there when I got home did not feel entirely new. However, her being safe, knowing that my family out west was now looking after her and it becoming apparent as time went on that she had come out on the other side of what had been and incredible difficult and scary time for the 4 previous years of her life, all of that was new. It left a lot of room for something else.
First there was a witnessing as I moved out of that phase of our lives, I was still stunned by everything that happened. Then there was grief, lot’s and lot’s of grief and it’s still coming. And then it was like I slowed down enough to become aware of how depleted and unhappy I was. I sat in that for a while, angry, about everything and sad and empty like I had nothing left to give to anyone. All the while my optimistic and driven side was gearing up for something better. Finally I pulled myself up and decided to get to work on reclaiming my life. I started saying no a lot and leaning on people in a healthy way. I started taking REALLY good care of myself. Letting Camp (my husband) take care of the boys more so I could sleep in or go get acupuncture or take a hot bath. I started to try and fill my cup back up and think about how I need my life to be so that I can continue to show up for my kids, my husband and for my business.
So here is what I am getting at…..when I went through the goal setting workshop I knew I needed to make some changes, I had an idea of what I wanted and mostly I felt ready to get back in the drivers seat of my life. But I was still vacillating between feeling super defeated, like I was so stuck, it would never change. And feeling like ‘I got this’, we can do this and things are getting better all the time. Moving through the same exercises we will share with you has helped me stay on the side of ‘I got this’. It has given me the awareness of what it is EXACTLY that I want and when I want it. Every day I am acutely aware of what it is that I am working toward, I am fired up for it and I am considering it every time I make a decision about anything. That’s powerful stuff. I can’t say I’ve been this clear and intentional in my day to day life EVER! Have you felt that way?
I cannot wait to share this with y’all and I also look forward to 1 year from now when we can all look back and see what we’ve accomplished.
One last little piece of info before I sign off for today. If the idea of setting goals scares you, you are not alone. If you stop before your even start because of a fear that you can’t get there, you should absolutely be signing up for this workshop. Because not only will we help you break things down so you may see that IT IS POSSIBLE but we will also shine a light on detaching from outcomes, which will likely help remove the fear! I hope to see you there, and don’t forget, unlimited members get $5.00 off, use code member5off at checkout
Signing off for now,